In his song, "best I ever had", Gavin Degraw says,
“I’m lookin’ at the crowd and they’re staring at their cell phones.”
There is no better way to tell someone they don’t matter to
you than to split your attention between them and your phone. If you do that
while talking to a booker, you won’t get the gig. You can say, “I can
multi-task. Really, I’m listening.” But the meeting will be over. Even while
you’re still there, you’re done.
You have a real flesh and blood person in front of you who
can give you money. The person on the phone might be important, or they could
be wasting your time. Don’t let them interrupt. It’s like cold water in the
face of the person you’re talking to. Even if they use their phone as a prop to
seem important or busy, don’t do it back.
There was a time when a “mobile phone” was a big deal, but
today homeless people have them. Get over yourself and show some self-control. You can read a
text later, and a caller will leave a message. In a meeting, phones go on
silent. Grown Folks is talking.
If you really want to stand out from your competition, search
for articles on active listening techniques.
The simple body posture of leaning toward the person you’re speaking to
and tilting your head slightly makes them feel that you’re engaged and
listening. When a person perceives that
you’re actively listening, they like you more, and we all know we’d rather work
with people we like. Likeability
translates into cash in this industry.
Women especially hate it when you’re just waiting for your
turn to talk. Show that you are listening and it sets you apart from the other bands,
playing with their phones like a toddler on a road trip.
No comments:
Post a Comment